Dear Jane,
I’ve seen you are all over this guy lately. You’re the new definition of love or what do you call it these days. Your pictures on Instagram is all over. In fact, I really love the one you snapped in that exotic location with customized shirts. Yeah! The one the inscription on his back was “Her King” and you have “His Queen” on yours. The designer really did a good job. The sexy comments drooling over you too. Hmmm! It’s good and cool.

But I’m more concerned about you idolizing him, the lover bird rendezvous that has refracted your vision off things that matter. His figure, six packs, and the seeming financial attainment really has shielded you from the audible sight of the visible truth. It’s a perfect heist leaving people around you dazed as they are left in a haze. Let’s leave rhymes for Superwozzy before you begin to face the music.

The way you’ve integrated into him without any reservation within weeks. I can see you are exposing your vulnerability. You told me of how you bumped into him in a public transit on your campus and you get on talking terms. It suddenly feels as if you’ve known each other since forever. WhatsApp, Facebook, and twitter were there to help speed up your journey to the lost land.

It was hayride for you when he liked all your pictures on Instagram and also obfuscate you with emotional comments of how he has never seen someone as beautiful as you. Only God knows how many locks he’s used that key for. He took you out on a date and a week later the relationship has begun in full fledge. All the voice of reasoning was completely ignored. As you chose to dance to his tunes. I hope you dance last when you know what it’s about.

You refuse people that matters access to your matter. “I know how to handle it” you said. The youths of this day can be very rebellious. They inform more than they request from those who have oversight over them. Your conscience sent you a mail but you refuse to open it. You know what it is about anyway. All this attitude is just to make sure nobody turns you back from this way you’ve chosen.

It is not really because this guy is bad. But you need to know the speed limit. The pace at which you are going without asking for the opinion of people who know better is questionable. You need to know that there are people who can act better than Tyler Perry in order to get a lady. Once you are hooked, you are gone forever.

The knowledge people gain these days are terrible. This same guy had mastered all the law of attractions to get you and enchant you. “How to win the heart of any girl” and others …… he has read them all. He knows how to blush when you make a positive comment about him. He’s read online all the “how to get a lady to fall in love with you in five minutes”, “How to touch her without touching her” etc. That was why Solomon wrote you a letter around three thousand years ago that you should guard your heart with all diligence for out of it are the issues of life. He will not stop there, he said; there is safety in the midst of numerous counsellors (if you can stand their truth).

Your friend counselling you against taking counsel also can’t see beyond her own nose. She’s been cruising in and out of relationships like Jose Mourinho changing job. Jose’s is better. He’s changing job. But in her own case, she’s changing life partner, leaving behind a fraction of her dignity and respect each time she makes a switch from a guy to another. You need to know who to listen to. You don’t need to keep a friend whose counsel has not moved you a millimetre into fulfilling your destiny.

Your relationship with this guy is moving too fast. I’ll implore you to pull over now. Take a moment to think about it. Lay it down at the feet of people that matters and that have the testimony. Ask for the right way. In case you discover you are heading for a road that leads to nowhere.

Sob softly thanking God you’ve not gone too far. Use this rotary ahead. Turn back to where you were if you can’t see any road leading you to the destination of your destiny. At least you are safe he has not jailed you to everlasting doom with wedding handcuff. And peradventure you perceive in your spirit that you’re heading the right way with the right counsel backing you up. You still need to take things slow to enjoy the beauty of the moment.

You miss half the fun of getting there when you overspeed or complain about the slow journey. Give this relationship a test of time to see if your conviction will be standing. Some things naturally take time just as sleeping with nine men will not produce a baby in a month. You need to learn to enjoy the moment. If he’s threatening you and putting you under duress. You should smell beans in this matter.

There’s something wrong somewhere that giving it time will reveal to you. Time is a revealer of secrets. Time shows the oak in an acorn. Time shows the fruits in the seed. Time gives opportunity to think, chance to check, double check and recheck again. If you can scale this time trial, you are half-way through the process of choice.

On your way to marriage, there are several bus-stop you need to stopover to check your stand over again. If you’re sincere to yourself, you must make sure all signs are green before you tie the knot. I wish you all the best.

Amore cum ab,
‘Yeni ‘Manuel

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Yeni Manuel

Ayeni Emmanuel Olaoluwa; Yeni Manuel for short is a young and agile man with the vision to "light up your light". He holds a Bachelor of Engineering degree in Civil Engineering from Nigeria's foremost University of Technology; The Federal University of Technology, Akure. He has passion for writing and a legendary penchant for human development. He loves reading, travelling, researching, counselling and taking time to talk people to life. He's a practising graduate engineer and certified PMP and he enjoys it.

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  • Big thank to you brother, you just shine light to illuminate my life….. I will forever indebt…..

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