Dear Joe,
You know cement, I’m sure you also played with sand. Stones of various sizes should not be strange to you too. Yeah I know you want to ask me Isaacist question “behold the fire and the woods, where is the lamb for the burnt offering?”. It is a question we all ask when life throw to us constituents to see if we can bring out a whole content from it. What I will be telling you is the concrete matter. I do hope you get the real deal from it.
Concrete is quite common. It is gotten from the mixture of cement, sand and aggregate (stones) in required proportion.

When cement is mixed with water, it undergoes a process called hydration. In this process, heat is liberated to be able to form hard bonds around each molecule, which interlocks with the sand and the stones. Overtime, the cement begin generating heat as the bond is formed in the concoction. Then, setting begins.
Setting is the hardening of the concrete. The concrete, previously liquid begin to conform to the shape of its containing vessel. Soon the concrete reaches its permanent form. Mind operates on that principle of setting too. When you carry a matter at heart for long, then the matter becomes part of you. That brought about the word “mind-set”.
Someone once asked;
“when should we start training our children?”
“Twenty years before they were born” …was the answer because, what you do today is only going to expound the more in the future not too far from now. I heard of your se xcapades with various babes on your campus. You are a cute young man who is well-fed and can live a bit above the means of your colleagues.

Dad allow you access to his car while you are still a toddler even though he never drove a car till your elder brother was four. That was when fortune smiled on him. He’s been praying and hoping you wouldn’t see, let alone experience a fraction of tough time he went through in life. So he keeps lowering the bar to allow his little boy measure up with time.


You keep misbehaving and your dad keep patching with polyfiller. Your dad practically forgot that life has a means of straightening us up.
It would be better if you amend your ways now before you set. Because, bent babies always end up as broken men. The same is true for ladies. It is why I’m appealing to your sense of reasoning to quit those attitudes that you will not be proud of in the days to come.
Your frivolous spending will not speak well in days to come. Neither will your carelessness about vital issues of life produce good result. I will tell you of three stages that are important in manh00d.
There is a first stage I called “the stage of dependency”. In this stage, you are under tutors and governors. That is the stage Solomon advised that you should be trained in the path you will go in life. Your burdens are on your parents and they cater for you. In this first stage, you are teachable, bendable and correctible because what you reflect is what is imbue in you by your tutors and governors. There, you are a green concrete; recently cast.
I called your second stage “the stage of surviving”. This stage is a bridge between where you are and where you ought to be. You have a conflict between “the you” on the inside and you on the outside. You’re just about to evolve. Then you need the help of the formwork – your parents/ tutors to hang on and stay in shape. You are forming what I refer to as lasting impression. Whatever you don’t want in your future must not escape this stage. There is a need to put your body under and face life with determination to fix yourself.


Nobody can fix you once you make it past this stage. This is time for you to bear the burden of your youth. Here determines your hereafter. That is why this matter is crucial.
There comes the last stage, I call the stage of succeeding. You’ve not only attained the shape given by your formwork. You now have strength in being yourself. Curing has taken place and you’ve attained certain percentage of your strength that only happen if you take proper adjustment you’ve been given. Look out for yourself now! You’re now a man. The world tells you. Out in the wild you are to unleash the dragon that has been caged in you. Life will shake you, test you and taunt you.


In fairness to your future you need to check you and ask if even you can trust you. If you cannot trust in the strength you’ve acquired, be ready for a tough time when you are standing trial before the future.
A stitch in time not only saves nine, it will save you a lifetime of regret if you align now. Don’t wait for life to do the straightening for you. Do it yourself to avert future quagmire. Leave behind, those things you will not be proud of in front of your kids. After all, you will soon be leading a family. Your children will be looking forward to being like you. It is a concrete matter. So, fix it now.

Amore cum ab,
’Yeni ’Manuel.

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Yeni Manuel

Ayeni Emmanuel Olaoluwa; Yeni Manuel for short is a young and agile man with the vision to "light up your light". He holds a Bachelor of Engineering degree in Civil Engineering from Nigeria's foremost University of Technology; The Federal University of Technology, Akure. He has passion for writing and a legendary penchant for human development. He loves reading, travelling, researching, counselling and taking time to talk people to life. He's a practising graduate engineer and certified PMP and he enjoys it.

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